Relationship Counselling and Spiritual Development
I believe that as human beings, we are born to be in relationship. My work with couples is centred on the restoration of a loving connection between two people in a committed relationship. I am deeply passionate about the effect of divorce on children and I believe strongly that committed, loving parents, raise well-balanced, children who can achieve their potential in life.
My Imago and Encounter Centred Couples work centres around restoring that loving connection. Many couples come to me saying there is no communication (and therefore no connection) between them anymore. They are either actively in significant conflict or they have got to the point where they have stopped trying as they are tired of fighting, and no longer know what to do.
My methods gently try to restore the health of the relationship by providing tools that the couple can use to reconnect and deal with the challenges that face them in a mature and loving way. Conflict is not a sign of the end of the relationship, it can in fact be a catalyst for growing the relationship, if the couple is prepared to make the commitment and put in the work.
I am Elaine Fourie and I have a passion for healing relationships and teaching. My journey in life has taken me along two pathways, psychology and theology, and what a wonderful combination this has been.
I am a registered Industrial Psychologist and I worked in industry for many years, mainly in the domain of leadership, ending in the completion of a PhD in Leadership Development in the postmodern context.
Services I Offer
The courses I offer are for spiritual development either in a relationship context, or for lay or ordained church leadership. I also provide opportunities for debate and reflection on theological issues.
When Should We Seek Counselling?
‘A lack of connection will always yield disintegration in any system—particularly a relationship.’
There are quite a few unmistakable signs that your relationship is experiencing problems. Don’t wait till things become desperate, the sooner you get help the better the prognosis for healing your relationship.
When you have lost connection, that is, there is no effective communication or interaction with each other
When the relationship (what we refer to as the space between you) has become very negative
Where there is emotional, physical, verbal, spiritual or financial abuse
When your children are being affected, or acting out negatively, because of the negativity in your relationship
When there has been an affair, either emotional or an actual physical affair.
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Elaine was able to take us from being in a desert to a place of communication and opened a pathway for hope and reconciliation and restoration in our marriage